Am i wrong to set firm boundaries with helping my friend?
I have agreed to help out my friend and take her kids to after school care every Wednesday, which is a fair way out of my way there and back, and with my own son included, the 5 of us barely fit in my little 2 door car. I'm more than happy to do that untill she finishes her first aid course, but my problem is that she is asking me to do more and more days, making up different excuses as to why she can't do it herself (she has her own car, and there is a bus service for the kids).
Today i spat the dummy and said i couldn't do an extra pick up, because there was no reason she couldn't do it herself, and aside from that, i work night shift and have my own plans the next day, she doesn't seem to understand that.
Am i wrong to only help her out on Wednesdays when she does her first aid, or should i be at her beck and call anytime it suits her?
No, you're not wrong. Just tell her that Wednesdays is all you can manage, and you're sorry but you can't take the kids any other day. Say it as many times as is needed. Don't blame her, don't make excuses, don't give reasons. Just stick with "Wednesdays is all I can manage." If she asks why, be vague - tell her you have other plans, don't be specific.
She's taking advantage of you, or trying to. Good for you for not letting her!
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